Due to the sell out launch of Beyond Words, I’m planning a U.S tour to share some of the cutting edge Attraction and Body Language secrets I’ve accumulated over the years.
I love the U.S and it’s a great chance to see more of it while at the same time get a chance to share some game changing techniques with you guys.
Keep posted and I’ll update you with the dates and locations
Right now it’s looking like:
New York
Chicago
Austin
Dallas
L.A
I can’t wait!
Hopefully I’ll get to meet a bunch of you guys in person.
Vercetti
P.S. If anyone is interested in helping me organise the events email me vercetti@lovesystems.com. (Of course I’ll make it well worth your while)
The Beyond Words DVD Launch (Limited To 500 Copies Only):
9am PST – 10 June 2010 (this Thursday!)
“The first thing I had to work on massively to get better with women, and I still work on to this day, was my body language.” - Soul, Love Systems, Master Instructor
BODY LANGUAGE – the magic BEHIND the words, lines and routines – is the secret to getting the best results with the hottest women.
Any guy who is NATURALLY GOOD WITH WOMEN might NOT use lines and routines… but that guy MUST have great Body Language to create Attraction.
That’s why Cajun, Mr M, 5.0, Keychain and Vercetti (myself) teamed up to produce a specialized seminar on the secrets of Body Language. Here’s a sample clip.
The seminar has hours of instantly usable techniques that you can use to start immediately attracting women with and without the use of words.
Also featured (as an amazing bonus) is KEYCHAIN (voted one of the Top 10 Pick Up Artists in the World in 2010) teaching Day Game and Rapid Physical Escalation. Yep – on the same DVD set.
“I didn’t know about [Keychain] honestly, but after 5 minutes I was with my mouth open thinking: “Who the fuck is this guys, he’s freaking impressive”. He talked about (extremely) Rapid-Kino-Escalation. He just destroyed all my limiting beliefs about kino escalation and k-close” – F.L. (click here for full review)
Here’s some more clips from the seminar:
Want more proof? As if the reviews on The Attraction Forums for Cajun, 5.0, Keychain and Vercetti’s amazing pick up skills were not enough… you can watch Cajun use his body language to get attraction from HOT girls LIVE on National TV, below…
Oh and one VERY IMPORTANT thing before you watch them… there are only 500 DVDs for the initial launch. There are hundreds of thousands of Love Systems fans so this really is a “no brainer”… the DVD’s are going to sell out.
To work 1-1 with Cajun, Mr M or Vercetti can cost upwards of $1000 per day. Or $3000 for a normal Love Systems program. This is a 7 DVD Masterclass with, not one, but FOUR world-class pick up and dating instructors. TWO OF THESE INSTRUCTORS ARE RATED BY THE INDEPENDENT TSB MAGAZINE TO BE IN THE TOP 10 PICK UP ARTISTS IN THE WORLD (Cajun and Keychain).
Unfortunately, no one knows the price yet – we’re still waiting for the office to tell us how much it will cost. I’d suggest just keeping a look out at http://www.lovesystems.com at 9am PST on 10 June 2010 (this Thursday!) to see. Savoy had this to say about the Beyond Words DVD:
An important announcement about the Beyond Words DVDs from Savoy (President and CEO of Love Systems)
“If you sit down, watch this seminar and apply just ‘some’ of these tried-and-tested pro level strategies you will experience an immediate and profound boost to your game.
Because even small improvements in your non-verbal communication reap instant and massive gains which mean more flirty glances, more phone numbers, more dates, more fun…
And of course – more getting laid.
Seminars are awesome and I always recommend them, but unfortunately this particular training session will not be offered again so this is the only way you can see it. And one of the other big benefits with a home study course like this is that you can pause, rewind and re-watch all of the most important parts, take as many notes as you like… and brush-up – as often as you want.
Why it’s so damn important:
Because a woman makes dozens of different (and instant) unconscious assumptions about you within the first few seconds she sees you. Even if you’re just entering the club to find your friends, she’s got you figured out and made a firm decision about whether she’d even consider you.
So if you don’t understand how to communicate non-verbally and how to trigger a woman’s attraction without words, then no routine is going to save you. There’s nothing you can say to change her mind.
On the other hand, if you DO get and understand body language, then almost any words will work. That’s right! And this is exactly what Beyond Words will teach you – how to trigger attraction in women through subtext, presence and body language.
You will find that almost every great seducer has (at one time or another) studied body language rigorously. BUT – it’s something that is very difficult and virtually impossible to learn on your own.
“How you carry yourself when you first approach a woman determines the first impression she gets of you; it’s critical. Studies the world over, and every credible dating expert I know, verify how important this is.”- Soul, Love Systems Instructor
“Bad body language will get you ‘blown out’ before you even approach and open your mouth; awesome body language will make women want to approach you.”- 5.0, Love Systems Instructor
“Good body language and sub-communication is what people mistakenly talk about when they talk about charisma and charm, they just don’t know it.”- Micha, Love Systems Instructor
What you’ll receive:
Here’s what you get if you’re a part of the launch party this Thursday:
>> The 4 DVD home study course “Beyond Words: The Art of Body Language and Physical Escalation.“
Includes over 5 hours of immediately useful and cutting-edge strategies from the world’s top seduction coaches Cajun, Vercetti, 5.0 (and all masterminded by Mr. M) with in-depth lessons on:
Body language (includes detailed instruction and exercises to ensure that you can pick it up straight away)
Subtext (what women ‘really’ think when they see you and how to use this to your absolute advantage)
Physical escalation (turn fun chats with cute girls into hot and heavy encounters)
Creating sexual presence (ensures that women become instantly attracted to you without really knowing why)
Using restraint to create attraction
And lots more… it’ll all be announced on Thursday 10 June
If you want to know some more, here’s what guys who attended the actual one-off seminar said about Beyond Words:
“In conclusion… awesome.”
“In conclusion, the seminar was awesome. It was recorded and there’ll be a DVD coming out of it in the future – I’m sure it’ll be worth a buy. Like my friend said, if you can’t afford the live training, I’m sure the DVD will be something you’ll want to pick up. Look into it.” – Pers
“In a nutshell: this is real shit, delivered by real people, that can make a real difference!” – DPT
“Provided me with value, ranging from immediate, to potentially lifelong.”
“There are a number of levels at which this seminar provided me with value, ranging from immediate, to potentially lifelong. Firstly, it was fascinating – so the entertainment factor was very high. Secondly, it was inspiring – precious indeed. Thirdly – its application could very easily be fruitful in many areas of life – with women being the most obvious area…” – DPT
“I was there, but still may buy the DVD!”
“How good was it? I was there, but still may buy the DVD… I can’t criticise a single presenter; don’t get me wrong, if I could I would. I’m not holding back out of ‘fanboy’ mentality, or anything similar, but they all had good stuff to say, and said it well. There was so much info in there, it will take a fair amount of time to work through, but it was all gold.” – O.B.B.
“Full of insightful, applicable ideas.”
“This presentation is full of insightful, applicable ideas put over in an entertaining way by experts who teach only what they have put into practice. Well worth seeing. Credit to Mr. M for putting it together.” – Rockfish
+ PLUS
As a part of our launch party, you’ll receive a stack of awesome bonuses – all included for you, and all for FREE:
1. A bonus DVD disc featuring Love Systems instructor Keychain on day game and rapid physical escalation.
So that you can meet, attract and date beautiful women anywhere, anytime. He gives you the tools to approach that pretty girl in the street and not just hope she talks to you (because odds are, she won’t). Not only that but he also covers rapid physical escalation and how you can use the female psyche to have her totally comfortable with you in record time.
AND,
2. Another bonus DVD disc with seduction master – Vercetti.
Teaching his coveted “inner game” lesson.
Something that he normally only teaches in private consults. Basically it’s how to get your “mind right” so that your confidence flows from within you and spreads to all areas of your life. The result is having the kind of inner self-assurance that females are magnetically attracted to.
Then to finish out the bonus discs, Cajun exposes some very interesting tactics to employ with ‘online game.’ This means you can turn Facebook friends into “friends with benefits.”
PLUS…
3. Body Language Revealed – an Interview with Me and Cajun
Cajun and I had great feedback on the private conference call we did on body language last week – so we’re going to include that for you as well (even if you were in on the call). It contains over 40 minutes of detailed Q & A that will give you the insight you need to really improve not just your body language but how you interact with women in general.
And possibly the coolest…
4. Cajun’s also agreed to include a confidential “master class” DVD.
This private recording takes you to the inner sanctum. This master class is a private interview session held with Cajun and Vercetti answering questions from students just like you.
This is your chance to get inside their heads and learn what it really takes to be able to attract women – comfortably and easily.
The master class contains raw and ready information that they have personally used (repeatedly) to effortlessly charm and seduce the kinds of women that most men dream about. This isn’t abstract “game theory” (that sounds great but is impossible to apply); these are the actual steps, routines, mind-sets and approaches that these guys use.
Cajun was declared on Keys to the VIP as “The pinnacle…” and “The best guy we’ve seen… in regards to his ability to attract women… This shows guys out there that looks don’t matter.”
And 5.0 said that, “I have yet to see anyone in the 3 years I have taught around the world hold a group of beautiful women’s attention almost solely through presence alone, quite like Vercetti can.”
So no matter where your game’s at right now, access to this revealing and detailed information will take you to new levels. As a part of this special launch party… you will receive this private master class for free that is not available anywhere else.
Limited Places…
Like I said, this is an exclusive and limited launch party for Love Systems subscribers only. And since you’re going to be getting an absolute ton of stuff, I’ve had to limit the number of places.
We printed 500 copies – which would normally be just about enough for LS subscribers like you. BUT (and this is totally my fault) about two weeks back I was writing some seduction articles for FHM Online and I was talking to them about the Beyond Words course.
At that stage I wasn’t expecting such insane demand and agreed to let them do a review on it. So I sort of screwed myself, because I’ve promised insiders the first opportunity, but FHM’s also got a review copy.
Thankfully, FHM has agreed to hold back posting the review for a week or two – to make sure that you have a chance to get a copy first. Because once they put their review up, with something like 50,000 visitors a day to FHM Online, the remaining copies will vanish pretty quickly.
When, where, etc.
It’s going to be released this Thursday 8:00AM PST and I’ll be sending you the link via e-mail.
BTW – If you pre-ordered, I have set aside your copy but if I don’t hear from you, then I’ll need to take your name off the package and send it to the guy below you on the list (just to be fair).
I’ll be sending out the link either late Wednesday night or early Thursday to ensure that it’s out in time.
In touch soon,
- NS (Savoy)“
If you’re not on the list then you’ll miss out on the DVD release link and the bonuses. Click the link and enter your email and first name so we can give you insider information – Enter Email At The Top Of The Page.
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Finally, in a recent competition on The Attraction Forums asking “what’s the most important skill that all top guys have, regardless of their individual strengths?” the winner’s response was, “Body language – and everything else that you’re telling women without words.”
This is going to be a seriously awesome DVD. I’m excited and I hope you are too.
Here’s to getting more girls… hotter girls… and living the lifestyle.
- Vercetti
P.s. In case you just scrolled down to see WHERE YOU CAN BUY THE DVD… the answer is… you can’t.
The Launch will be held at 9am PST – 10 June 2010 (this Thursday!) and there will be ONLY 500 COPIES SOLD.
You MAY or MAY not have a chance to buy the DVD at a later date, but there is NO GUARANTEE the bonuses (Keychain on Rapid Physical Escalation, the Cajun and Vercetti SECRET VIDEO, the talk on Beliefs etc) will be included beyond the launch. So (1) sign up to the email list at www.lovesystems.com and (2) BE ON THE LOVE SYSTEMS SITE at 9am PST – 10 June 2010 (this Thursday!).
An important concept that I learned from Alexander Technique and then incorporated into my Game and Sub-Communications work, was a process called Inhibition.
“Inhibition is the process of pausing before an Action- giving us the necessary time to register “How” we are preparing for an activity and therefore the opportunity to change our Habitual Reaction.“
For the purspose of learning this invaluable process, let me make an important distinction between to very similar concepts:
A few years ago when I was just starting out I had one of the most important realisations I’ve had in Game. I was with Mr M and we couldn’t have come from more different starting points; Mr M was a Lawyer and very Logical and Analytical and I was an Actor living by that old adage “Acting is Reacting” and always looking to React in the moment. Two polar ends of the spectrum!
As he is notorious for(And one of the reasons he got good so quickly), Mr M asks me what I did in a set that went “well”, I said “Dude, I’m just in the moment and do whatever comes to mind” he replied “You can’t just live in the moment completely, how do you take the interaction forward and lead it to where you want it to go”
At the time I remember thinking “This Dude doesn’t have a clue, you can’t be strategic when you’re in the field you have to live in the moment.”
Then it hit me. I was having great interactions, lots of fun, energy and excitement but I wasn’t getting laid!
I went back on what Mr M was saying and whilst in an Alexander class at Drama school, it all came together. I realised I wasn’t Responding in the moment, I was Reacting and with those Reactions came unpredictable and uncontrollable results. I then realised that you needed both a map of where you’re heading and the ability to live in the moment.
“By stopping our habitual reactions we give ourselves a chance to make a choice how we’ll do things. As our mental attitude changes, there is a chance to break our habits.“
A word on Learning Game
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When starting out and learning anything new, you’re going to be a little stiff and artificial at first then as you practice and gain agility your fluidity increases and things that once were difficult, become smooth and unconscious, “Habits”.
It’s the same in the field.
If you take a look at most of the guys now solely advocating “Natural” Game they have all gone through the lines and routines, the robotic behaviour as they analysed what they were doing.
Take it from an Actor who was spontaneous in the field and living in the moment, You need to go through the process of being out of sync, you need to go through the process of being slightly robotic and having things prepared to say to spike your conversation. You need to have an eye on the Emotional Progress Model, your map and how to get to the final destination. You need all these things and if you haven’t been through that and try to go “Natural” straight of the bat, you’re shooting yourself in the foot and limiting the potential impact of your interactions and also how attractive you can become as a man in general.
Routines in the beginning are as much about learning the “Vibe” of Attractive Behaviour and Conversation as they are about having stuff to say. Once you’ve got a feel for this “Vibe” you’ll then be able to have “Normal” Conversations and still keep the “Vibe” running underneath, appearing “Natural.”
Breaking a Bad Habitual Reaction
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The process of Inhibition becomes your most valuable Ally in the field when it comes to learning Attractive Behaviour.
Below is a process I teach for changing your habitual Reaction but you have to go through the discomfort of stepping out of the moment slightly in order to break the bad Reaction and choose a more effective Response.
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Become conscious of its existence
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I became aware of what was happening to my body when circumstances arouse which gave me a nervous Reaction. I’d put myself in all kinds of environments and become conscious of how I was Reacting to the stimuli.
For example, when I got AA it was a Physical Reaction, my heart would start beating faster, my temperature would increase and my breathing would get shallow. Now when it comes, it’s just a mental block that I overcome simply by making the decision to man up and take Action.
I observed all these things and brought them to my consciousness.
When I was walking past a hot girl on the street my walk would get all fucked up, my rhyme would go and my eyes would flicker all over the place, trying not to seem as though I was checking her out. Again, I brought this to a level of consciousness so that I could gain control of it.
Your Reaction may not be distracting movements it may be that you just freeze and do nothing and think you are being “Non-reactive” and are just being “Passive”, whatever it is use the process below to highlight and eliminate it.
ACTION STEPS
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1. Make a list of the circumstances where you have negative reactions and note what happens to you.
Examples are:
• Approach Anxiety – Sweaty Palms, Increased Temperature
• Shit Tests – Laughing Nervously
• Hot Girl Walking Toward Me – I start to walk funny etc…
2. Discover the Impulse
Keep putting yourself in the fire and get a feel for exact moment when you have the “Reaction” to the stimuli. Discover the impulse. 3. Say “No” – Choose to do Nothing
The Absolute first step after discovery is to say “No” to the impulse and Choose to do Nothing. This means rejecting the negative Reaction. This will seem weird at first because you’ll feel as if you are stopping dead in your tracks (In some cases you will) and taking yourself out of the moment. Trust me, this is necessary and what seems to you like an eternity, will actually only be a second and then a split second; but it will give you enormous power and control over yourself. 4. Choose a different Response
From the position of a blank slate you then have the option and the clarity to choose whatever Response you like including the original one. If you practice your new Response over and over you’ll eventually create a new Reaction forming a new Habit and becoming a “Natural”
**If this feels like painting by numbers it’s because it is! I never wanted to be average with women, I wanted to be exceptional, I never wanted average Women I wanted the ones that I fantasied about – That required painstaking attention to detail and now I don’t have to think about these things.**
I’ve made a promise to myself that I’ll not say another bad thing about the quality of the girls in London, not only are there a ton of hot girls in London but more importantly, if I have planted in my mind that the standard is low, I’ll find evidence of that. And seeing as how this is my place of residence for the foreseeable future that might not be so wise!
So…Here’s to finding the Diamonds in London!
Recently I’ve become obsessed with peak performance and conditioning myself for success. The more I read on the subject and the more I start to apply the new principles learned, the more I realise that this is Life or Death battle!
Coming back to London, I’ve realised I have a lot of negative anchors associated with things in my immediate environment; Destroying them and working step by step, chipping away at my “Supernova” (A term coined by Braddock and Mr M in their Life changing Inner Game Seminar) is a 24hr thing now, there’s isn’t a second to let slip!
The saying “you’re mind is a continual fight for territory” resonated with me and I really do believe it, you have to constantly be on guard for negativity, weeding the garden of your mind, doing whatever it takes to keep yourself in a productive peak state. This doesn’t mean working yourself to death but it does mean Eliminating Negativity from your life.
I’ll share with you a little technique I’ve been using to good effect for a while now; it’s from the book “The One Minute Millionaire” By Robert Allen and Mark Victor Hansen. Hope it Helps!
Linking Negative Beliefs to Physical Pain!
“Every time you think a limiting or negative or bad thought, snap your wrist with a rubber band. This interrupts your thought process and rewards the negative limiting thought with pain. Thus, you are less likely to think such a thought again.”
Or if you want to take it to take it to the next level…
Apparently the Irish women are some of the friendliest in the world! Mr M and I haven’t had the opportunity to hit the town yet but tonight should be an experience as we take the Students to meet the Lovely women of Dublin.
A common question I’m asked is “How long did it take you to get good with women?” And every time I’m unable to give a specific answer. I went through many frustrating nights coming home virtually in tears of frustration but it’s what I did in those moments that enabled me to take major steps and overcome my sticking points.
One of the most useful tools I’ve used to accelerate my learning is Creative Visualization.
In Maxwell Maltz’ book Psycho Cybernetics – which I highly recommend- He basically talks about the use of Visualization to modify and improve your Self Image; it’s extremely powerful.
Preparative - The Ideal Image
Create a vivid motion picture of you or someone who is awesome with women, excelling in a situation you are struggling with.
I did this prior to going out to incorporate things like High Value Sub-Communications, physical and sexual escalation and pretty much any characteristics that were eluding me.
For example: You may have seen the YouTube video of Soul and I on the Lovesystems’ Channel; that was about a year and a half ago. I had asked Soul to teach me everything he knew about Daygame and to push me to the limit, I was shitting myself! I had been a Jedi in “High End Club Game” for about 2 yrs prior to that and the thought of “crossing over” actually made me very anxious. In order to make my transition smoother and create a Self Image that contained characteristics of a man who meets women anywhere, I had to “See” myself doing well at Day Game, Doing approaches and create an internal blueprint to guide me in the real world.
Action Step 1. Third Person – Watch the Experts in Action
Find a couple of “Mentors” are great in Social Interactions
Watch them, take note of all aspects of their interactions.
Find a location where you can relax, completely uninterrupted and go into semi supine position (see below)
Ideal position for Relaxation and Releasing Tension
Re-run the interactions of your mentors again paying attention to all the details
Run an interaction this time watching yourself doing exactly what your mentor did.
Example: I’d watch what Soul in his Daygame interactions, I’d take note of EVERYTHING, how he stopped her walking, his Sub-Communications, the Words he used, how he Escalated the interaction and displayed Value etc. Then I replayed it later in my mind this time substituting Soul for Vercetti. I did this several times until I had a clear understanding of what a good, solid set looked like and more importantly, what I looked like doing a “perfect” set. I then started to throw hurdles into the interactions, like her friends or high resistance from the woman.
Action Step 2. First Person – Become the Expert
Re-run the interactions, this time from a “first person” perspective: See everything through your eyes instead of standing outside of yourself and observing.
Make the movie simulating: Make it a complete sensory experience, engage as many of your senses as you can. Note what you See, hear, smell etc.
I created such vivid imagery that I’d actually have physical responses to the mental stimuli. That hot brunette actually made my heart beat that little bit faster, as I closed the distance and increased my sexual intent I could feel the sexual charge in my body.
I visualized myself doing approaches, adjusting my Body Posture and working on my Body Language, the way I Moved and Walked, the way I Spoke and what was going through my head at the time. I included as many of my senses as possible to create an experience as close to real life as possible. The power of the imagination never fails to amaze me.
With good relaxation you can actually create images so stimulating that you’re also able to isolate your Negative Beliefs. One of my scenarios was stopping a woman on crowded oxford street in London, as the movie went on, I could hear my old negative thoughts “Everyone is going to be watching me”, “she’s going to think I’m trying to sell her something”. From there I was able to create and upload new empowering beliefs and work on eliminating the old ones.
NOTE: THEN I WENT OUT AND PRACTISED!
Nothing happens without action and the visualizations, although extremely powerful, are not substitutions for ACTUALLY meeting women and getting your hands dirty
Corrective Visualizations – Correcting Course
These are EXTREMELY important, in my opinion more important than the first type. They are used at the end of the day having been out interacting and gaining reference experiences.
Get into Semi Supine
Rerun all of your interactions for that day (or choose the most significant ones)
Take note of all the good stuff you did first, the things that were effective, what was awesome about you, your vibe, your Sub Communications etc
When you get to points where the interaction stalled out, creatively resolve the sticking point.
if you can’t resolve it, ask a wing what they would’ve done. I can recall a number of times in the past where Mr M and I would talk in the morning after a wild night out and analyze interactions, overcome sticking points and correct course for success next time.
Replay the whole set in the ideal way, smooth, no glitches, overcoming the obstacles and tests and moving past the point where you stalled out last time.
Repeat this process on all your sets. You’ll be amazed at how much faster you begin to improve because using mental rehearsal triggers the same neurological responses as actually doing real life rehearsal…However holding a woman in your mind and in real life are worlds apart
****Get out of your house and practice, real time***
In NLP “State” refers to the overall emotional, physiological and psychological condition of an individual. There have been many things written in the community on State, does it exist? Should you be able to perform even without being “In State”? And so on.
Everything I teach is only taught after I’ve practiced and drilled personally so that I know it works, and what I’ll share below are ways to get “In State” EVERY time you need to perform at a high standard.
A “State” is made up of three layers and in order to change State all you have to do is:
1. Become aware of what you are doing at any of the layers and
2. Do something different. Simple!
The Layers are:
• Physiology
• Focus
• Language
Physiology
What are you doing with your body?
Our Bodies and Minds are connected and it is possible to affect one by doing specific things with the other.
If you remember a time when you were feeling angry, you may instantly notice where the tension forms in your body, the frown that forms, the tension in your jaw. Or when you were feeling defeated; walking around with your head down and shoulders sloping forward. Who knows which came first the state or the physical posture; it doesn’t really matter, the important thing is that it can be changed simply by doing something different.
When you sense that you’re in a “Bad State” check in with yourself and notice what you’re body is doing and change it. Lift your head up, stick out your chest and over exaggerate the posture of a confident man. You’ll find it’s very hard to stay in a “Bad State” when you change your physiology, and force yourself to do a confident posture.
Other Physiological alternatives
• Play the Animal Game – Replicate the sounds and movements of various animals
• Play Imaginary Instruments – Whatever song is on, play along to the backing track as if you’re at a concert. Drums, Guitar, Sax etc.
• Jump up and Down
These as you can see, don’t have to be logical or “sensible” in fact the more silly they are the better, as they get you out of your head and into your body and achieve the desired result…An Altered State!
Focus
On what are you focusing your attention?
If you have approach anxiety and you focus on getting rejected or whether she wants to be bothered or not, or if she has a boyfriend, then I can tell you that anxiety is not going away. If you focus on the anxiety itself and notice your handshaking or you forehead sweating then chances are that anxiety will increase tenfold.
Instead I tell students to…
Focus on your DESIRE
By Focus on your Desire I mean, instead of thinking of and focusing on all the reasons why she won’t be interested, focus on that part of you that saw her and thought “Fuck! She’s hot! I WANT HER!” Be like the kid in a candy store, going for the chocolate bar with no concern for what mummy’s saying!
This does two things
1. If your desire is anything like mine, that shit will CHARGE you! I adopted this from working extensively with Soul instructing with him on his Daygame Workshops. When he sees a woman that he’s into, he allows his desire consume him. Taking her in and delighting in all the aspects of her beauty. The way she moves with a Dancers grace, the way her hips swing from side to side, all the elements of her femininity. Then he just drifts after her like Pepé Le Pew (Without the smell and French accent of course).
2. It’s amazing how much more congruent a man becomes when he is at one with his Desire, suddenly the words and attitudes seem to come for free and the interaction becomes a lot more fun and interesting as there is a sexual charge.
Other things to Focus on
• Having fun – Try taking your focus away from what yourself, notice people in the environment, check out the guy doing the funky dances and just enjoying himself.
• Create Scenarios – With a friend come up with different back stories for people in the venue, the weirder the better.
• Have an Elastic Band round your wrist and snap it whenever you feel yourself focusing on something negative
Language
What are you saying to yourself?
Words are extremely powerful especially the words we are saying to ourselves. We have this running commentary in our heads, creating meanings and interpreting things every moment. Depending on the type of person you are you’re default will be positive empowering scripts or negative and destructive ones, with work you can change your default setting from negative to positive.
Are you telling yourself “I’m tired, I can’t be bothered to approach” “I don’t know what to say” “That’s probably her boyfriend” – These are unproductive and having these phrases running through your head at anytime would be enough to put you in an inactive and frustrated “State”.
Learn a new language!
Plan this in advance – Create empowering alternatives to use when you feel out of state. I’ve got a bunch of different things I say to myself that allow me to feel like the man before I approach or when AA creeps in. They range from “Fuck It” to “I’m Fucking Vercetti!!!” Generally anything that makes me feel like a BEAST ready to consume and dominate the situation!
Come up with things for yourself that make you feel empowered and proactive!
Productive Language
• “I’m the hero of my story!”
• “Is this interesting!” (Creates a curious state of mind, very useful)
• “STOP!!! What am I thinking” (This is great for stopping you in your tracks so that you can relax into the moment)
Take MASSIVE Action!
A lot of the time when I see students in a weak state they’re usually standing there not talking to women! The best way to get the cogs moving is to take Massive action, and by massive action I mean, do a Direct high risk approach! “Hey, you’re fucking Gorgeous, I’m V!” BAM! Adrenaline pumping, State Changed, enough said!
Personally massive action is the best step, for obvious reasons – It changes your Physiology, Focus and Language all in one go!
I decided to write this after the Miami Daygame seminar recently instructed with Soul. This topic comes up on EVERY bootcamp or 1-1 I’ve ever done!
At minimum one student always says, I’m not opening them, “That’s probably her boyfriend”.
I want to start by first stating that I personally do not advocate taking another guys woman. One of the main reasons I continue to learn and teach dating science is because it’s important to me to make a positive contribution. Call me old fashioned, but I love to see people happy, and being the destructive force in someone relationship does not sit well with me.
That being said, I see nothing wrong with finding out the status of a relationship in order to determine whether a beautiful woman is single and I can hit on her.
So, Soul and I are in Miami and I am walking with several students when one points out this gorgeous blond sitting at a table talking with these two guys.
One of the students asks me, “How would you approach that girl?” followed by the classic statement “That’s probably her boyfriend.”
I instantly tell him Never Assume Anything unless it’s obvious! Unless they are holding hands, kissing or generally doing relationship stuff, you really don’t know the situation! Then I told the student to Go Find Out!
SIDE NOTE:
It is hugely important to always seek reference experiences when developing a new Habit, Belief System etc. 50% of the struggle is realizing that IT IS POSSIBLE. The other 50% is learning that it is possible for YOU. This is why, my 1-1’s consist of me doing demos so my students see what is possible. Then the students start taking action and being advised step by step in order to see first hand that it’s possible for them.
How do you approach the mixed group?
The number one thing to remember is to show the guys in the group RESPECT!
I have been out with my hot female friends that I have no interest in sexually and I have had so many guys come up and start talking to the girls with no acknowledgment or show of respect for me. The second this happens, I instantly cock block these guys. On the flip side of the coin I have had guys introduce themselves, show me due respect and if he has decent game and my friend likes him, I’ll even help him.
Every guy can relate to that feeling of seeing a hot woman and wanting to talk to her. However, not every guy out there can relate to the experience of actually grabbing his balls and making the approach in a coherent, non-drunken way. Most guys out there will respect you for even attempting to approach the girls in their group (if you acknowledge them and show them respect). Some guys will be dicks regardless of how you approach…that’s life.
By respect I don’t mean kissing their asses. This will have almost just a bad of a result as trying to act all tough. By respect I just mean finding out the status of the relationship.
Direct approach (Not hiding your intentions)
1. Friend
Me:“Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s absolutely gorgeous!”
Game On!!! Treat the guys as if they are standard obstacles to befriend, and isolate her as soon as she is comfortable.
2.Partner
Me:“Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s Gorgeous!”
Lad:“Yeah, check out the ring she’s my fiancé”
Me:“Fair play man, she’s beautiful, congrats man!” Aaaand I’m out!
3. Sister
Me:“Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s absolutely gorgeous!”
Lad:“She’s my sister”
Me:“Fair play mate, no disrespect intended she just took my breath away, she’s beautiful…I’m Vercetti.”
I say all of the above loud enough for the woman to hear, I then introduce myself to the guys, then I introduce myself to her, and then I go ahead and work my magic on her.
4. Direct to the girl (Be prepared to possibly deal with heavy resistance from the guys)
V: “Hey, are any of these guys your boyfriend?”
Her: “Nah, they’re just friends”
V: Playful “Good You’re fucking gorgeous and I really wanted to meet you.”
Over the next few weeks go out and try both opening the guys first for a while and then go out and try opening the girl directly. I honestly switch between those two options depending on how bold I’m feeling. Going directly to her shows less regard for the guys which displays both you’re lack of fear, but done incorrectly it can also show a completely lack of social intuition.
Remember that both approaches should be done with high value sub-communications like I described in my post.
Indirect approach (Masking your intentions until you know logistics)
1. When going indirect you want to approach the whole group and not just the girl. Once you introduce yourself, get her name last and say to the closest guy “And what’s your girlfriends name?” (Make sure you say it loud enough for her to hear it) at which point her or the guy will answer and make the relationship status known. (Credit 5.0 for this gem)
2. The classic “How do you all know each other?” After having run standard indirect game.
So my student in Miami went in, showed the guys respect, found out the relationships status, and to his delight they were all just friends! GAME ON!!!
This game is almost cheating. I was completely winging it the first time I came up with this, but it truly was a random stroke of genius.The Assumption Game is very similar to the format of the question game, but it is something that can be used much earlier in the interaction and it is something that you can keep running from start to finish!!!
I came up with this while doing high end club game. (Side note) another great game Mr. M and I play is “Veto.” Veto is where you point to a hot girl and you say “veto” and your wing has to go open her, NO EXCUSES!
Yesterday, Mr. M vetos me on a 2 set of ridiculously Hot Brunettes, they have a bunch of guys floating around them and my first reaction is “Fuck! You Bastard! ”**Note**Mr M is notorious for consistently vetoing me on incredibly hot girls, although he has stopped recently…probably because I almost always end up hooking up with them and taking them off the market!
Soooo…..
I have become extremely lazy lately and this woman was actually hot enough to get my heart racing. I go Direct, cutting through these guys hovering around them and lay it down on the hottest one:
Vercetti: “Well Sarah, I’m getting the Bouncers to throw you out!”
Girl: “What? WHY!?”
Vercetti: “Well look at the way you’re dancing, you’re teasing these poor chumps who don’t have the balls to come talk to you” Point to Chumps(Evil, I know, but fuck it, they should have taken a workshop with Lovesystems ) “You should be ashamed of yourself woman! ”
Girl: “Whaaaaat! I’m not doing anything!”
(Daxx comes in to wing the other girl, with perfect Navy Seal timing and intercepts the other girl before she interferes)
Vercetti:”Yeah right! You’ve got “PLAYER” written all over your forehead!” (gentle grab the back of her head and trace you’re finger across her forehead) “See!?”
Girl: Lol
Vercetti: “Actually…you know what…I believe you…Hmm that is interesting…You have really truthful eyes…At Drama School, I had this teacher who used to say that the best actors live, in truth, behind their eyes. My teacher also said that no matter what, you should never assume things about a person until you’ve had a chance to look into their eyes…and find out…who they really are.” (Find an Alternative from you’re life…”My Business Mentor/Ex-Girl Friend/Whoever used to say people live behind their eyes etc, etc…)
Girl:Look on her face like “Take me home now!”
Vercetti: “I’ll show you something cool, let’s play a game”
Girl: “Okay”
Vercetti: “It’s called the Assumption game. We have to reveal an assumption that we’ve made about each other. However there are rules…
1. We have to be totally honest 2. We can’t get mad at the assumptions 3. You go first!”
***Here is where it gets fun and interesting***
Some of the Benefits of the Assumption Game
• You are making statements instead of asking questions, which makes the conversation flow much better.
• She becomes invested in the interaction and begins to pay closer attention to you
• The interaction becomes balanced early with both of you making a contribution, instead of you rambling.
• You demonstrate different sides of yourself directly off of her assumptions
• You can build Attraction, Qualify, Set Frames and Sexual Hoops, and Build Comfort like a Jedi!
Below are some examples of “Assumptions” I have used in various interactions. I start off lightly “Assuming” all the information I want to know without having to ask a question because she will inevitably tell me if I make an incorrect statement. Then I gradually move on to more sexual assumptions displaying my comfort and knowledge on the topic.
“You’re Sweedish” (Whatever Nationality you think she is)
“You’re fun loving and need to let your hair down, you’re dancing as if you’re shaking off a tough week”
“You’re very fashion conscious, very stylish”
“You’re independent, you seem like the type of person who sets her own rules and lead the pack rather than follow others.”
“You go for you want! You seem like you’re the type of woman that grabs life by the balls and makes shit happen…”
“You’re shy but I can also see a dangerous side of you hidden behind your eyes, like it’s waiting for a reason to burst out…”
“You’re Bitchy, but behind all that, there’s this sweet girlie girl who still believes in the magic of love and finding her soul mate…”
“You like being seduced, you’re very in touch with your feminine side…”
“When you’re with a man that you’re extremely comfortable with, you become sexually aggressive and can’t control yourself…”
“You’ve never had a full body orgasm. You carry a lot of tension in your body that traps nerve endings making it hard for you to relax and fully enjoy receiving pleasure. That’s a Shame!”
You need to be prepared to answer her “Why?” questions with answers that reinforce the frame or bait her to divulge the truth.
I have had all kinds of assumptions made about me, I find it really interesting; people’s perceptions and how close or far they are from reality.
Remember the 2nd rule however, “We Can’t get mad at the assumptions” That applies to both of you! Take everything she says at you in stride and use it an an opportunity to DHV. This game should start off light and can move through the Emotional Progression Model alongside your Physical and Logistical Progression.
Have fun, field test and then add your discoveries to this post, I’m still refining and sharpening “The Assumption Game” so it would be awesome to hear your field experiences, and some of you’re Assumptions, Cold reads, Frames, Sexual Hoops etc.
Generally anything that makes me feel like a BEAST ready to consume and dominate the situation!
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You’re fucking gorgeous and I really wanted to meet you.”
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